Whether it’s the guy I dated who drove me from Coachella to Los Angeles as we blasted The Strokes on the highway—who I also unceremoniously cut off after a fight over band photos (not worth getting into)—or the two-year psy-op (or relationship, depending on how sadistic you are) that started at a festival and came complete with a French pop playlist called “AIRica” (I mean, if you’re going to love-bomb me, this is definitely the way), I am a fool for soundtracked, music-memoir, “fell in love with the girl at the rock show” love.

Alas, connecting over musical taste can be dangerous, especially for someone who gets hyped up by live shows and songs that trigger dopamine. It can fog the mind and make you think that a shared dedication to and love for the arts means there is something deeper, more fate-oriented pulling you together. So, if you’re single (winks, blows kiss) like me and looking to connect on a deeper level with your next partner, perhaps FEELD’s Reflections discovery tool is for you.

You may know FEELD as the dating app for open-minded people exploring love, desire and alternative relationships in a safe, inclusive space. And if you’ve heard about it as the kink app, you (like me) may be a little hesitant to use it.

However, the folks at FEELD are offering tools that feel surprisingly practical even if you consider yourself a very (insert M word—milquetoast, monogamous, missionary, etc.) dater like me. They recently launched Reflections, an in-app self-discovery tool that allows you to better communicate your desires, boundaries and preferences instead of finding out you are on completely different pages on date three or year two—or on the way back to the airport after a week in LA (I’m fine, I’m literally over it!).

While other dating apps are leaning on AI and automation for matchmaking, FEELD is doing the work that will hopefully make it easier for users to find their most compatible matches.

Click Here To Take The Reflections Quiz!

Despite thinking the app wasn’t for me, I was sincerely surprised by some of my results. Scoring low on non-monogamy and high on long-term commitment wasn’t too shocking, but with a 22% kink score, I don’t know—maybe I’m not as milquetoast in the bedroom as I thought pre-quiz. It also gives you tidy little links so you can share your results with a friend, or that cute guy who keeps liking your stories.

My biggest takeaway, however, is how nice it is to be prompted to dig deeper into desire, boundaries and communication in relationships. Much like I prefer to discover new artists instead of having them haphazardly thrown onto an AI playlist made for me, it is nice to feel like you are in the driver’s seat of your dating choices—and that you can easily share your intentions in a clear and upfront way.

And apparently, I’m not alone in finding the exercise useful. According to a new report from FEELD, 72% of members who used Reflections have changed or considered changing how they communicate on their profiles, while nearly 67% rethought how they seek out partners entirely.

The data also suggests that Gen Z is not as confused about dating as millennials (sorry to my community) and is more willing to name what they want in a relationship. It’s refreshing to know that apps like FEELD are making it possible to skip the BS, name what you actually want and only play the songs you want to hear—and that’s sweet, sweet music to our ears.